Girls like dinosaurs too!

So I think I have only really noticed this since some very lovely girlfriends gave me a triceratops necklace for my birthday and a matching dinosaur birthday card (which I LOVE) but the majority of people think dinosaurs are for 8 year old boys! What the?

I really don’t get it. My sister had a massive fascination with dinosaurs growing up. I’m not sure if it’s because we used to love the movie The Land Before Time, oh flat head – he was so cute. She had a fair bit of dinosaur stuff. So I guess for me it was always normal that dinosaurs were for everyone.

But since I have been wearing my necklace I’ve had noticed a few interesting comments from ‘are you wearing a dinosaur necklace?’ to ‘oh yeah, boys they just love dinosaurs… oh so do you?’

Does everything have to be categorised as boys or girls? I find this really a strange thing. My sister and I grew up wearing pretty dresses (including one that had watering can buttons – it was floral. I was convinced that the watering cans kept the flowers on my dress from dying) but we also wore ‘old clothes’ to play in the mud or help Dad in the shed.

Also there were never boys and girls toys there were just toys. I did once crack it because I was given a small transformer for my birthday and I really wanted a big one, my mum has since made up for that getting me one just a few years ago. Thanks Mum x

Clearly I am the same today. I love to get my hair done and wear pretty clothes but I equally love to fix scales with my Dad in my King Gee shorts. I would love to go and see monster trucks or just watch bad reality make over shows.

I think sterotypes are boring and while some people buy into them I choose to be me. I intent to make sure that my beautiful niece knows that she can just be her and if that’s wearing Wonder Woman outfit or pretty bows in her hair then she should, maybe even at the same time. The only rule should be to stay true to herself.

I believe you should always be yourself… unless you can be a mermaid and then I would be the mermaid… but that might be another post!!

Land Before Time

Land Before Time

 

Doing nice things for others makes me smile like an idiot

I have had a few friends who have been having a crappy run for no reason other than the fact that sometimes life is just shit and deals you a rubbish hand.

Often in the past when someone is going through stuff that is hard to understand I have avoided it, especially if it’s to do with grief. I am terrible with grief think this was because when I was little and I had to go to a number of funerals I just pretended they were on holiday, this was a great coping mechanism then, now it just screws me up emotionally and I don’t know how to respond.

My new thing is to do the first nice thing I can think of it might be to make a homemade gift, send a card, drop off flowers or just to sit and listen. None of these things are hard to do but they seem to make a big difference to the recipient.

Yes, yes you all know this and it’s easy but sometimes I find that I have fantastic intentions and think ‘I should… send a card, bake a cake, do something nice’ then I get busy and then I just forget. So now I’m not should-ing, I’m doing!

Last week I dropped off a little something to a friend and I grinned like an idiot the whole way home. I had so much fun putting together this little gift, thinking about what might make her day and hoping that she’d like it even though it really doesn’t make her situation any better.

I also had a chat to a colleague, who I don’t know very well as I haven’t known her for very long. Just after Christmas her son was in a really bad accident and well it’s been a pretty shit month for her and her family. I sat and listened to her and then stayed a while and just talked about stuff. Nothing very interesting, just stuff. As I left she said thanks for listening.

I didn’t start making this conscious effort to be nice, I think that I am normally nice, but I am really enjoying trying to bring a little extra sunshine to my friends who might not be having the best time. I guess I am also fortunate to know how nice it feels to have beautiful friends do something for you when you aren’t in a great space.

If you have a favorite thing to do when a friend is struggling I’d love to hear what it is.  Feel free to leave a comment x

I don’t know what to be when I grow up!

When I was in high school I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up… well I didn’t know the title but I was going to cure the world of obesity. It can’t be that hard, just exercise and eat healthy, right? I even used to ask my manager at McDonalds if I could refuse to serve customers if their belly was jammed into the steering wheel, they all said no and also surprisingly turned down my idea to encourage these people to at least park and walk and encourage healthy behaviours.

The thing I had not considered is the bit where you have to work with humans who are not very good at making decisions about what is good for them right at this minute and not in the future. So when I figured this bit out I decided that maybe I could do something else and have a career! Yes a career… but in what?

It’s really hard wanting to change the world but not knowing where to start or having a major passion… so that leaves me here. 11pm on a Friday night not being able to sleep, just thinking, wondering if I could still live out my childhood dream of being Wonder Woman.

Right now I’m working in Sport and Recreation, the high hopes I had for it aren’t being met so far however I have to admit it’s very nice not being stressed out like I was when I worked in mental health, yes I know that’s ironic that I was stressed while working on mental health projects.

Other careers I’ve considered and reasons why not:

  • Being rich – I’m to frugal to buy lotto tickets so I don’t think this will work out
  • Housewife – husband said no, I can’t just stay home and bake cakes all day
  • Mum – I like kids but I really like giving them back, that’s job is too hard
  • Running my own business – have never bothered to write a business plan for my souvenir design company – don’t laugh I have some really great ideas
  • Pilot – actually this one has potential… I haven’t totally ruled it out
  • Professional blogger – bhahahaaaaa, no I’m not good at writing, I’ve never considered this

Well to be honest this hasn’t really helped me figure out what I want to be, but I do still want to change the world for the better. Hopefully one day I will figure out how to do it!

My new relaxation strategy is Crochet! What?!

I’m the least crafty person I know… that’s not totally true I like to do what Kyle has named Food Craft. Yes I can make tiny little cars out of mini mars bars and tea cups out of tick tock biscuits. teddy

Recently my beautiful friend Camille visited Melbourne and taught me how to crochet after she recently learnt. The first 10 minutes was painful, learning how to hold the hook and getting confused about the stitches but after that I got into this rhythm and it was meditative. For the next few nights I worked on my little beanie and I noticed that I had a really good nights sleep.

Since then I’ve made a few beanies and a few scarves. I find that it’s so nice at the end of a busy day to do something with my hands and almost forget what is going on with the rest of the world. I am working towards making my niece a blanket, I have one that a family friend made for me, I love it and I’ve always wanted to learn to make them but I thought it wouldn’t be something I could do, but turns out I can! Woohoo!beanie

Since gaining this new skill I have taught a friend who like me isn’t great at winding down. She is so much better than me already and more importantly she has also found it relaxing. We think it’s because it’s not hard to do but you have to concentrate enough to calm your mind from whatever thoughts are rushing through your head.

If you want to learn there are a lot of free online tutorials and patterns. Pinterest is a great source of inspiration and free patterns – you can check out my crochet board. Here are a few good free basic patterns: Beanie, Scarf and also check out my friend’s blog on her crochet.

Enjoy!

Random acts of kindness

Last weekend Kyle and I were strolling home from the shops when I noticed a lady in her 70’s struggling with a ‘Nanna trolley’ full of groceries. I kindly offered the services of my husbands muscles to carry the trolley up the 56 stairs (she told me how many stairs, I didn’t count them).

Even though it took some convincing that Kyle was more than capable of carrying her groceries (I had to say ‘don’t worry he goes to the gym’ Kyle may have been slightly offended by this) she was very grateful offering us both a cold can of Pepsi. Very cute.

While our five minutes of being nice made her day easier it was the feeling of helping someone for no other reason than it was a nice thing to do which stayed with me. It made me think… I often do random things for my friends but not often for strangers. It made me think is this because we don’t look for the opportunity?

While I will keep my eye out to do nice things for random people I will continue to do nice things because… well to be honest it’s easy and it makes me feel good. Win! Win!

If you are after some ideas check out the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation and 40 Acts of Lent two really nice websites.

 

 

Kyle you are my Captain America

Apparently I don’t blog enough about how amazing my husband is so here goes.

What makes Kyle similar to a super hero? Well he…

  • doesn’t let Barry get out of control (Barry is his belly and three is a crowd so he’s not allowed to  hang with us)
  • learnt to cook and has even named a salad after himself “Kyle’s Special Salad”
  • understands that doing housework = happy wife = happy life
  • can put together kit furniture without having any leftover parts (according to my Dad & brother-in-law you must have super powers to achieve this)
  • has a very high tolerance level of my many moods, often in the one day and my need for constant attention
  • can shop – this equals great clothes for me as I don’t like shopping; and
  • like Captain America Kyle was skinny and now he as amazing ARMS!!

At the end of the day you can’t complain when you get to see your best friend every day, sure he may not have super powers but he’s still super hero!!

 

 

Yoga makes me angry!

I lovely friend at work asked me if I wanted to do Yoga in my lunch break. Knowing this is very good for me and that I should do something to calm my mind and become zen like I said sure, great Idea.

Problem one: I hate yoga

Problem two: same as problem one.

So I tried I did three classes I think and I have to be honest the instructor was really good, it’s a power type of yoga so it’s faster and a bit of a workout. I don’t mind the strength work as I’m kind of good at it but I just don’t enjoy yoga especially if I’m stressed. I think it’s the language used to describe the exercises, it’s so fluffy!

I get very fidgety and having to slow down in the middle of the day, while it works for some, it makes me angry. I am much better off doing something that I enjoy or that is intense as I find I can then relax once I’ve gotten rid of some energy.

Oh well I tried, maybe not as hard as I should have but I sold off my spot to one of the other girls in the office. I’m a much nicer person for stopping yoga.

I Survived Sweets Free September… October was a different story

I LOVE sweets cake, lollies, chocolate…. I have a huge sweet tooth and I have a minimal amount of willpower. I know it’s not good for you but it tastes good and I’m very good at making bad food choices when I’m stressed so I often eat a lot fair amount of crap.

My beautiful friend Mel was telling me she was going to do Sweets Free September – basically no crap, no chocolate, dessert, cake, lollies you get the drift. I thought this sounded like a great plan as in my office there is always crap and if not I can get it from down the road.

The first two weeks were hard. It was made a lot easier by being able to text Mel when I was having a moment of weakness, encouraging words of support such as “if you eat that it will go straight to your ass, sorry but you needed to hear that” were never far away and it may sound harsh but it really helped.

By week three I really wasn’t missing it. In fact I felt amazing, I was drinking more water, sleeping better, exercising every morning and really enjoying creating health snacks.

October has been a different story. The first week I said I would set boundaries and stick to them. I didn’t set the boundaries and I was offered all sorts of tasty treats and I’d have just one. Now It’s almost the end of October and work has been very stressful my eating of sweet goods has gone up, exercise has gone down and I’m feel rather average.

November will be different I’ve set boundaries – no sweets Monday to Friday! I don’t normally have access to sweets on weekends so I will see how I go! Wish me luck x

I only like running because it’s FREE

There are people out there who like running. I know some of them and they are lovely people and for some reason they look fabulous when they are running. I on the other hand look like I’m about to die and should be being accompanied by a St Johns ambulance.

Recently I decided that I should start running again, not with any aspirations to do a fun run or start taking it seriously but just to help improve my fitness and well to be honest because it’s FREE. I already own runners so I just have to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other… quickly. However despite how easy running is in theory I really don’t like it that much.

Here are my top tips for making running tolerable:

Scenery: Run somewhere that has nice scenery that way if you get bored you have something to look at.

Get a sports app – There are heaps of FREE ones, I use Endomondo. A nice American lady kindly tells me how fast (or slow) I am running and that helps keep me motivated. I’ve nicknamed her Mary and I think I could beat her if she was real and I had to race her (yes, clearly running gives you too much time to think). This is a great way to track your progress and see improvements.

Pick a loop - The good thing about running a track that’s in a loop (especially if there is water in the middle of it) is that you have to keep going and you can’t take short cuts.

Suck it up –  Focus on the first 5 minutes this is the hardest bit once you get through that it’s not so bad.

Hopefully these tips are helpful for those of you who don’t enjoy running. Remember it’s free, you can do it anywhere and despite feeling like dying at some points during your run all the endorphins that are released will make you feel awesome at the end. Happy running peeps!!

My reward sneakers

My reward sneakers

 

Do what makes you happy!

do what makes you happy

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I love my parents with all my heart, they are amazing people. However, as with many parents, it’s an occupational hazard to try and solve their children’s problems. This was made evident when I recently told them I was going to take a break from studying even though I have only one semester left before I’ve finished my Masters.

Despite telling them this when I was in tears from being so stressed, exhausted and miserable they came up with a plan which included:

  1. Dad calling me at 6am every morning so I could do homework before work (cute, but was never going to happen).
  2. To be honest I can’t remember all the other plans they came up with but there were a lot.

They didn’t understand that I can go back to study when and if I want, but also that this was the right decision for me and I guess they are so used of me making decisions based on other expectations that this must have come as a shock.

To give you an idea of how unhappy I was when I finally quit my colleague said “what happened to grumpy Bec? You are way too happy to be the real Bec” hmmmm… that’s not good, I don’t want to be that person. I get that sometimes we have to do things we don’t like but when you can’t remember why you are doing it and in my case when you aren’t learning anything or enjoying it and you are bursting into tears every time you look at your laptop then you have to question why continue.

I am so happy I made this decision, doing what makes me happy has so many other benefits including being a better wife, sister, daughter, friend and colleague and personally that is very important to me.

What I learnt from this experience:

  1. Never tell your parents stuff they may wish to think about prior to them driving home (especially when they live a six hour drive away).
  2. People are lovely and want the best for you – even if they don’t understand what is best for you.
  3. People you least expect to understand can be the most accepting
  4. Doing what makes you happy makes life so much easier :)